I got a Dress! (Finally)

Super yeay! I found a dress... its the wrong size I have never tried it on and I am not quite sure what the back looks like but its mine!

I saw a dress on ebay and jumped on it.  I can't really go into too much detail about what it looks like because my fiance is reading this but as far as i could tell in the picture it has all the elements I am looking for.

The best part is that with shipping and handling the dress only cost $63 so even if I hate it I am sure I can go to a consignment shop or just back on ebay and sell it for a small profit.

Truth be told this is the second wedding dress I bought off of ebay and much like this one I don't know what the other one will look like.

I am almost certain that both dresses are the wrong size but I can have it tailored so that it is a corset back and then i can lose and gain (please god no more gaining weight... blog post coming soon about that) weight.

Wedding Woes

So after asking my dear and beloved Fiance for the past FIVE FREAKING WEEKS to email a guy he knows who MIGHT be able to get us a good deal on a venue for the wedding he finally sent the email today. His reasoning for not sending it before? He was busy. Now I will grant him that, yes, we have both had a very hectic schedule over this past semester. BUT if  you have time to update facebook and read my blog then you freaking have time to send a five minute (if not less) email! Ugh!

 

I have been putting away every freaking dime I have for this wedding from my dish washing/waitressing job at the restuarant and I know money is tight for him right now so I'm not mad about him not being able to contribute as much but could you at least be slightly more involved in the planning of the wedding. 

I don't have my maid of honor around, she is in Boston. My mom won't come and visit me in Florida because she thinks we will just argue about the dress. The two girls that did volunteer to help me dress shop once slept with my current fiance and the other doesn't know that I know she is sleeping with my ex fiance. I have all of one day a week off from work which is the same day the majority of the wedding dress places are closed. If I do buy a dress its going to take 4-6 months to arrive and the wedding is now scheduled for October so I need to make a decision soon. A huge problem with this is that I actually found the wedding dress I want badly but the freaking thing costs almost $1,600 and the total amount we plan on spending on the wedding is $4,000 if we can help it. But once my mind is made up its going to be damn hard to change it.  I have looked on all the discount wedding dress stores online and NO ONE is selling that dress for cheaper. 

I have scoured for venues and for caterers and have looked at wedding cakes, and I can't make up my mind on any of it because the budget of the wedding is so up in the air. I don't know if we will have $4,000 in time for the wedding. I am saving about 400-500 a month but then the sushi place ends up being slow and I bring home less than that. 

I am so close to just saying screw it and just going to the court house but damn it all I want that wedding dress and I freaking WANT to walk down the isle and I want pictures and I want everyone in the world I know to see it. 

What else is bugging me about the dress is that I know that I am going to need to lose weight before the wedding so if I get a dress that fits me now it may not fit me in time for the wedding. So then what the freak do I do? Spend another couple hundred so I can have it altered again. yeah... great... 

Sorry about all the complaining folks but I just needed to get that off my chest.

Dress Shopping

I tried on a couple more dresses on Monday at Demetrios in Tampa and lucky me most of the dresses there are a size 10!... I'm a size 14 at best. Much like the picture above my boobs were popping out all over the place and it sure as heck did not zip up the back. I did however find two dresses that I liked quite a bit. Both are around $1500 which means I will try and find it cheaper online becuase there is no way I am spending that much on the dress if I can help it.

I showed the pictures of the dresses to my mom and she said I should keep looking. I asked her why and her response was they look "uncomfortable". This made me think that by uncomfortable what she really means is i am going to look fat in it. Oh well I might be reading too much into that.

I do have one other place in mind  that I want to go look at dresses and see how their price compares as opposed to the other two places I have been to. I also found out that I need to order my gown pretty soon if I expect it to be here in time for the wedding.

Oh and the wedding date will definitely NOT be in August. A co-worker is taking her vacation at the restuarant right on the weekend that I wanted to have it so I am still keeping November 11 in mind but I am also thinking about having it October 10, 2011 (10/10/11) mainly because it is on a Monday which means everyone we know is more likely to come. All I really know is I have to pick a set date soon otherwise I am going to be in trouble.

I also have to pick out a venue and SOON! The Hungarian church is still available but its just SO small. Granted we are not going to have a ton of people there to begin with but I was hoping for a decent size dance floor at the least. Any suggestions about places in the Hillsborough/Pinellas county Florida (not the beach because Curtis will fry and so will I) they would be greatly appreciated. And if you have a rich uncle that lives down here and has a huge mansion we can have it at I am all for it. (yes I live in la la land and my fairy god mother and white slippers are hidden in my closet).

Stresses, Dresses

So I think I'm starting to take my stress out on Curtis because of the lack of money we have for the wedding. Poor guy I know he is trying but its like I just can't be satisfied. He is selling his Transformers and what not but then he goes and buys a book he will not need until next semester. I know he says he is doing it to get a head start but really I think he could be getting a much better deal on all of his books if he bought it a little later and ANYWHERE else besides the school book store. In the mean time I feel like the bad guy because lately its like I have been bitching at him about every little red cent he spends.

Really I think he needs to get a different job that is more pay and has a set amount of hours. At least that way we know exactly how much money is coming in for every pay check and there isn't this oh god am I going to get 10 hours next week or 25... And I know the hours are not his fault but still I just feel like he needs to let go of GameStop and see if maybe there are better opportunities out there for him.

I really do feel like a whiny brat.

I am trying to get a part time job to pay for everything in the mean time but really I just want to be lazy. Something needs to light a fire under my butt too and get going with my ebay sales god only knows those clothes will not be in style forever and some I probably already just need to get rid of. I just can't seem to get motivated about anything lately, and I don't know why. I'm not sure if its just because things look bleak or if its because I am worried I will lose my job and I know I will need to sell my clothes at that time for collateral or what.

On top of everything else my mother has been no help at all with the wedding. I tried to call her on her birthday and the next day but no such luck. I didn't have the money to send her flowers so I don't know if she is pissed, I guess I could have sent her a card I, again was just being lazy about it.

On a more positive note, I found a dress I like and a couple of webistes that are willing to sell the dress for like 80% less than the retail cost which is $2,145.

A picture of the dress can be found here:
http://www.demetriosbride.com/us/index.php?page=collection_ilissa&styleID=2644

and a much cheaper place to buy the dress can be found here:
http://www.dresstimes.com/home.php

Another place I want to check out more dresses is here:
http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/